This post comes to us via the inimitable Elle Griffin, whose guest post How to Sync Your Menstrual Cycle with the Moon is a fan favorite. Elle Griffin is the founder & editor-in-chief of Over The Moon Magazineand host of Over The Moon Radio. She is a writer, speaker, & Mariology scholar who adores throwing parties and writing young adult fiction novels; and she spends her spare time dancing ballet, sipping champagne, speaking French, and sharing all of the above on Instagram @griffinelle.
You had the moment. The one where you felt like a shaken champagne bottle. You realized there was something more to you, to your body, to your existence, and this existential experience left you craving for ritual.
Oh they’re all the rage these days. The rituals where you burn your intentions in salt, paint your body with your menstrual blood, and sit in a circle outside under the moonlight. You know, the ones that make you feel like you’re an indigenous princess.
I know. I’ve done ‘em too. The thing is, we’re not an indigenous tribe (at least not if you’re reading this). We do not sleep outside under the moonlight on a regular basis and the bulk of our belief systems are no longer pagan (though for some reason we’re always trying to emulate their rituals).
We are connected right now, you and me, via computer screen. It’s amazing. You have access to knowledge that our forefathers would never have known, thanks to the internet. You will live longer than all previous generations, thanks to modern medicine. We get to be a community together, you and me, two girls with likeminded ambitions, though we may never meet in person, or even know someone in person who thinks just like we do.
The past is beautiful (and lord knows I dream of La Belle Époque), but so is the present. That’s why I believe it’s high time we stopped raiding our ancestors’ rituals. They’re great and all, but I also believe it’s high time our rituals get with the times. Here are some of my favorite (more modern) feminine rituals:
Instead of dancing around a fire with your top off howling at the moonlight and beating on drums. Try this: Grab a sweaty Soul Cycle sesh to spin away that extra energy, then get gussied up and have champagne with a friend (or lover) somewhere out under the moonlight and preferably loud (so you can laugh a lot… or kiss a lot).
Instead of sitting on bales of hay with your sisters and mother-in-law bleeding your sacred menstrual blood out into the earth. Try this: Invite your girlfriends over for a slumber party and watch movies that make you laugh (and cry). Feel free to order delivery and pamper yourselves with chocolate face masks from Lush. Down comforters and girl talk required.
Instead of throwing your daughter a period party at the start of her menstrual cycle. Try this: Design a ritual that celebrates and symbolizes a shift occurring in your life. For my 30th birthday I wanted loads of ritual to mark the end of one phase of my life and the beginning of a new one. So I rented ball gowns from Rent The Runway, bought bottles of Veuve Clicquot Champagne, hired a photographer, and invited all my girlfriends to my parent’s vacation home for a decadent weekend at the beach. Soon after, my husband and I moved from California to Utah to further cement the shift.
The point is: Want to host a Great Gatsby party in ceremony of your graduation from college? Go right ahead. Feel like celebrating 30 with ballerina toppers on your birthday cake? It’s all you. Choose old symbols or new, but the important thing is to choose rituals that suit your style, symbolize your significant moments, and help you usher in the new you in a significant way.